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Question 1When you express your feelings, how does this person usually respond?
• (0) Listens and tries to understand
• (1) Dismisses it but later apologizes
• (2) Blames me or changes the subject
• (3) Gets angry or tries to manipulate me⸻Question 2How do you feel after spending time with this person?
• (0) Valued and supported
• (1) A little drained, but not always
• (2) Emotionally exhausted or unsure
• (3) Anxious, confused, or sad⸻Question 3How does this person react when you set a boundary?
• (0) Respects my boundary and adjusts behavior
• (1) Pushes back a little but eventually agrees
• (2) Ignores me or argues against it
• (3) Punishes or mocks me for setting it⸻Question 4Do you feel safe being fully honest with them?
• (0) Always
• (1) Sometimes, depending on the topic
• (2) Rarely, I often hide things to avoid conflict
• (3) No, honesty feels dangerous⸻Question 5How does this person respond to your success or growth?
• (0) Celebrates and encourages me
• (1) Seems happy, but sometimes acts weird after
• (2) Gets competitive, jealous or withdrawn.
• (3) Belittles my goals or sabotages them⸻Question 6How do they act when you’re upset?
• (0) Offers me comfort and support
• (1) Tries but gets defensive
• (2) Makes it about themselves or downplays my feelings
• (3) Blames me or shuts me down⸻Question 7How does this person talk about your past or personal history?
• (0) Respectfully, they never weaponize it
• (1) Occasionally brings it up but apologizes if it hurts
• (2) Uses it in arguments or guilt-trips me
• (3) Constantly brings it up to control or shame me

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